What @ Blessing



I can give myself whatever it is that I am seeking from another person.

For example, say I wanted to hear from a special someone, yet the reality of the situation was that I didn’t hear from that person.  As soon as my expectation is met with the reality of the situation (not hearing from that person), I become sad and a tad angry.

So I ask myself a question:  What would I have in this moment, that I don’t have right now, if I was to hear from this person?

ANSWER:  Love, appreciation, being cared for, etc.

Hmm… well if my feelings are the only thing that would change, can’t I give those experiences to myself?  Can’t I imagine what it would feel like to receive that from another person and then give it to myself?

YES, why yes I CAN!

I can give myself LOVE, APPRECIATION, and acts of kindness, the same way any other person could.

Wow, what a great and humbling SURPRISE.

The love and appreciation that I give to myself, feels like a thousand shooting stars.

What a feeling!

The Love in Me HONORS the Love in YOU


May You always know your own value.

May You always know your own beauty.
May You always know your own worth.
May You always know your Oneness with the Divine.

May You always feel deserving to receive.

And may You know You are Love.

– Tosha Silver


Our Inner Light


Realizing that we are separate from our thoughts, gives us the freedom in choosing which thoughts to believe, if any at all.
It is in the stillness, where our thoughts seem to fade, that we see the beauty and magnificence of life.
Our thoughts are but a distraction, a veil, if you will, shadowing us from our own light.
As Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor says, peace is just a thought away.
Or is it a thought?
Maybe it is a feeling.
Peace is just a feeling away, hidden behind a wall of thought.
Let us ponder that today.
Sending you LOTS of LOVE,

Be Free. Live Light.


Listen to that soft voice which comes from deep within. 
Silent the voice which makes you feel small and incomplete, as that is not your voice. 
Delight in the beauty of nature. 
Listen to the birds sing and feel the aliveness in the air.
Be true to your heart. 
As challenging as you may perceive that path to be, know that it will lead you to greater lands. 
Trust the unknown, for it feels better to trust the unknown, than to succumb to doubt and fear.
Free from the burdens you may carry, from the weight of yesterday, or worries of tomorrow. 
Allow the love in your heart to fill the love in your body.
You are a child of god.
Never forget your power.
– Sarah (TheLove4Happiness)

*Perspective* can make all the difference


There are tough times we need to go through in order to grow and flourish.
Looking back, I now realize that the perspective of a situation can make all the difference.
If you see a challenging day as a crappy day, then that is what you will experience.
However, if you see a challenging day for what it is: a challenging day, and you accept it without resisting it, you could change your perspective and change your life.
Just because it rains doesn’t mean that the sun won’t shine again.
Trust yourself, the Universe, or whomever you call the higher power, that you are where you are supposed to be and will be guided where you need to go.

Healing through Mindfulness: Sister Dang Nghiem

Zen Lessons On Healing After Loss

This is such a great post!  For anyone who is dealing with a loss or any type of on going suffering, please read this.  Not only read it, but begin to practice mindfulness.  It is only when we live here, in this moment, that we free ourselves from our OWN suffering.  The only way to live is day by day, hour by hour, and minute by minute.  Be here, be free. – TheLove4Happiness

When she left her career as a medical doctor, Sister Dang Nghiem, MD, a Zen Buddhist nun and disciple of Thich Nhat Hanh, learned the true meaning of healing.

For Sister Dang Nghiem story, click here.By Siobhan O’Connor

Breathing heals; time doesn’t.
It’s a myth to say that time can heal. Time cannot heal. Breathing and mindfulness can. [Long after a traumatic event happens to you,] a sight, a sound, a smell, a taste, a touch can trigger the complete stress response as though it’s happening all over again. What saved me was the mindfulness of breathing. Sometimes I would lie down to breathe and put my hands on my belly to slow it down and anchor my body. Through breathing, you learn to slow the stress response, the fight-flight-or-freeze response. If you can do that when going through a very intense experience, the next time you recall that trauma, you will do so with more peace, mindfulness, and clarity.

You can cultivate joy even when you’re hurting.
It’s been 14 years since John died. I still miss him every day, but I have learned to cultivate joy and peace in each breath, even though I feel that pain. You have to do them both at the same time. It’s like a garden: You have to take care of the weeds, but you also have to plant flowers. If you only weed, you’ll be exhausted and lose hope. And if you plant enough flowers, eventually there will be less room for all the weeds. (Get more ideas on how to find joy everyday.)

“Applied Buddhism” means mindfulness happens all day.
We’re not saying you have to set out 1 hour a day to sit on a cushion. We’re not saying quit your job and go live in the mountains. We’re just saying if you eat, don’t eat your projects. Don’t eat your sadness. Don’t eat the argument you just had. Just eat. If you walk, just walk. If you drive, drive. We have to choose again and again to be in the present moment. The moment you realize you are not being mindful, that’s the moment you are mindful. And you come back to it again and again. It’s a mental training.

You can keep the dead alive.
When a person dies and you lose all your joy, then it is like you are making sure that person is as dead as possible. But you can learn to call on the spirit of that person for help and learn to see him or her around you. When I see a purple flower, I remember that John loved purple flowers, and I smile. That flower, in that moment, becomes him.

Mindfulness is powerful medicine.
Mindfulness is the most effective preventive medicine there is, because it teaches you to care for yourself. Because you learn not to cause harm to yourself or others, physically, mentally, psychologically. I learned in medicine that so many of our illnesses are from lifestyle, and the biggest factor of our lifestyle is stress. Stress will bring on any illness. Diabetes runs in my family. My mother had it; my uncle had it. My brother, who is 4 years younger than I am, developed it in his mid-30s. I’m in my mid-40s now and I still don’t have it. We can have a genetic predisposition, but our lifestyle can determine when an illness will manifest, if it will ever manifest.

Kind actions matter.
In the Buddhist teaching, we talk about karma. Karma means actions, thoughts, speech. So really everything we do in life matters. You think, Oh, it doesn’t mean anything to bend down and pick up a nickel and give it to the person who dropped it. You think, Oh, it doesn’t mean anything to open the door for somebody. But you know what? Everything you do means everything. Every word you say to somebody or to yourself accumulates. Mindfulness allows us to make [more thoughtful choices in the moment]. And so we are more likely to have more positive and wholesome seeds in us to save us in daily life and very difficult moments.

Real medicine means being present.
If a doctor learns to practice mindfulness, if she learns to do a walking meditation as she’s going to the patient’s room—gathering herself, truly present—and she walks in quietly, peacefully, that’s already medicine. She’s calm. She’s not outside of her own body. The patient feels that attention, that tenderness, that care, that true presence. The patient is already soothed.

We Love Elizabeth Gilbert …. And You Will Too!

Elizabeth Gilbert warms my heart through her words. #BEeasyOnYourself
THOUGHT OF THE DAY: Blind spots and self-compassion.

I’ve been thinking for the last few weeks about the blind spots in our lives, in ourselves. How humbling it can be to realize — even after all these years of experience with life — that there is still so much we cannot see, still so much to learn, still so much to trip over or crash into.

It’s so hard sometimes to forgive ourselves when we stumble and mess up. There’s always that most critical part of ourselves who thinks, “After all this time, you blew it again?! Seriously?! You still haven’t gotten it right? How could you not have seen this coming?”

But then I remember that the very definition of a blind spot is something that you simply cannot see through or see around. We all have our blind spots. These blind spots are part of our shared humanity. And we cannot beat ourselves up for things that we were incapable of seeing or learning before we saw them or learned them.

You will get it when you get it — and not a moment before.

You will wake up when you wake up — and not a moment before. 

And then you will do better next time. But only if you allow yourself to move on. 

So blink, dear ones. Clear your eyes, take in the lesson, forgive yourself for what you could not possibly have known any earlier, and keep moving.

Easier said than done, I know. I am speaking to myself today as much as to you. But please, above of all: Be very kind to you.

You’re doing your best.

Forward ever, backward never.


What is it You Wish to Be?


I  LOVE this saying!

If we seek change, 
we must be willing to unmask 
whatever it is that is holding 
us back from making changes. 
What is it you wish to be? If you wish to be happy, 
then be happy
Our unhappiness is usually 
based off of the false stories 
we keep repeating to ourselves. 
Strip down and see the truth: 
You are perfect in this moment 
and a thought from the past or future 
is the only thing that can make you feel 
less than you truly are. 
OWN your fears and you will set them FREE.
– TheLove4Happiness

Martha Beck + Huff Post: 10 Life Lessons you should UNLEARN


Here she is again, Mrs. Martha Beck!

I just love this woman and her work.

Here is the article that she recently wrote for The Huffington Post:   10 Life Lessons that you should UNLEARN.

It is a MUST READ.


Max Ehrmann – Desiderata – A Poem

This is a poem that a friend of mine shared with me.  It is a poem that speaks truth and offers us the wisdom we all seem to be yearning for.  We may have different theories and/or beliefs about the lives we live, but here, we can all come together and relate to one another through this beautiful poem.

Be kind, be gentle, and seek the goodness in everyone and everything.


Max Ehrmann


Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

Max Ehrmann, Desiderata, Copyright 1952.