We are SURVIVORS!

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Get ready because I am about to throw some 90’s music at you!

Today, as I was driving- well let me back up.  This last month has been HARD.

Starting my own business has stretched me (at times) more than I would like to feel.

And last night, I hit a breaking point.  The thought came into my mind:  “Maybe I should just give up.  This is too fucking hard.” 

And then I got pissed.  I don’t get mad a lot, but last night I got mad.

Why the hell aren’t things going the way I want them to?

How come I feel like my wheels are spinning?

How come everyone else is making money and getting clients, and I’m not!?

How am I going to be able to afford my new house?

HELPPPPPPP!

At this point, it was past 10:00pm and my bedtime and I was tired. 

I went to bed.

This morning before I meditated, I set the intention to receive guidance from the Universe.

It went like this: 

Me:  How in the world do I reach my money and business goals, this month?  I feel so lost and confused.

Universe/Inner Wisdom: How would you feel if someone gave you $1,000 – $5,000 dollars?

Me:  I would feel relaxed and calm.  I wouldn’t worry so much and I imagine life would feel easier and happier.

Universe/Inner Wisdom:  Live like that NOW!  Begin to feel CALM and RELAXED, RIGHT now, not when you reach your money or your business goals, but NOW. 
The whole point in life is to feel good.  Start by FEELING what you want to FEEL, right now, and see what happens.

At this point, I was SO exhausted, mentally and emotionally, that I accepted this advice and began to introduce feelings of relaxation and calmness into my body.  

I finished my meditation, and realized that it was 9:45am.  

“SHIT.”  I thought to myself,  “I had to be at the bank (for my Dad), at9:00am.”

I quickly gave thanks to the Universe, and headed out the door.

I got in my car, started backing up, became distracted by my phone (UGH), and all of a sudden I was in the DITCH, in my own driveway.

(For REALS. right now!?)

Side note:  I live in Montana, in the country, and there is A LOT of snow.

So there I was, stuck in the ditch (of my own driveway), and wondering what the hell had just happened.

I left my car (it was not budging), got into my Mom’s car, and was on my way.

As I was driving, I changed the radio station, and I heard:

I’m a survivor 
I’m not gon give up 
I’m not gon stop
I’m gon work harder
I’m a survivor 
I’m gonna make it 
I will survive
Keep on survivin’

I’m a survivor 
I’m not gon give up 
I’m not gon stop
I’m gon work harder
I’m a survivor
I’m gonna make it
I will survive
Keep on survivin’
 

THANK GOD.  

This was exactly what I needed to hear.  

THANK YOU, UNIVERSE! 

As I listened and sang my heart out to the song, I imagined that I was singing to the fear; the voice inside my head who beats me up and reminds me of how I won’t make it and WHY.

(Listen to the song here, and see what I mean!)

Throughout the rest of the day, I began treating those voices in my head, like little children in a classroom.  

Like this:

Voice in my head (inner mean girl):  How are you going to make it happen? You NEED to know NOW!

Me: Is that helpful?

Voice in my head (inner mean girl): No

Me: Then please keep your mouth shut unless you have something nice to say.  And while you’re at it, go sit at the back of the room, and don’t come back up to the front until you’re behaving better.

I have been doing this all day!  And guess what?  IT WORKS!

WE ARE SURVIVORS, and we are NOT meant to give up.  WE are going to keep trying and will never STOP.

Do not let that voice take over the teacher’s roll, THAT IS YOUR ROLL.  You are the teacher, and your inner mean girl is the student.  Start treating your inner mean girl like the child who isn’t behaving.  

Think about it:  If a child acts out: makes fun of others, throws pencils and markers, and/or hurts peoples feelings, YOU as the TEACHER, would well him or her NO, and make him/her act accordingly.

That is exactly how you treat the voice in your head.  Until he/she can behave nicely and give you positive and encouraging advice, he/she is not allowed to be listened to.  EVER.

Be strong.

I believe in you.

YOU ARE A:

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Looking FEAR into the EYES

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“Until you can look forward to all aspects of life without fear, your Work is not done.”  – Byron Katie

I had an epiphany the other day after reading this quote.  It slowly started to dawn on me that I had the willingness (in one area of my life) to look fear in the eye and choose not to be scared. The fear that used to TERRIFY me, no longer held its power over me and scared me the way it used to.

 

HOLY COW!  WHAT a realization!

 

And the fear I am talking about?  It is the FEAR of being FAT.  You know it right?  

I have been scared of being fat since the seventh grade.  I had beliefs like: only skinny girls are pretty and only pretty girls are skinny.  AND:  I HAVE to be skinny in order for people to like me.  AND: I am not likable if I am not skinny.  You see where I am going with this…

The behaviors that came from believing such thoughts were detrimental to my health, mind, soul, and body.  Behaviors such as: controlling my eating habits, eating when I wasn’t hungry, emotional binge-eating, harsh self-criticism, judging myself and others, and wearing baggy clothes because I was too scared to wear my tight clothes, for fear they wouldn’t fit.

 

And what did this all stem from?  Believing thoughts that simply were NOT TRUE.  Who said that only pretty people are skinny and visa versa?  Or that one is only likable if they are skinny!?  Because I have two words for them: what BULLSHIT!!!!  100% BullSHIT.

 

The fact that I can hear the voice in my head (you should watch what you eat, you don’t want to get FAT), feel it’s impact on my body, as uncomfortable body sensations (tightness, tenseness, and heaviness-usually in my heart center), and choose to face the fear, rather then fight it or ignore it, changes its effect on me.  I used to be SO scared to face the fear, for fear that I would become FAT, that I would bow down to it (unknowingly), BELIEVE IT, and then end up feeling like the victim of my own life.  This created a hellish life for me for quite some time.

 

BUT NOW?!  I see it for was it is:  a made up FEAR that doesn’t hold any truth whatsoever.  May I repeat:  A MADE OF UP FEAR THAT DOESN’T HOLD ANY TRUTH WHATSOEVER.  Through life coach training and many of my own personal experiences, I have come to realize the insanity of the fear and have begun to trust myself and my body, more than a belief inside of my head.

 

And now that I have come to realize this, I can apply it to other fear based areas in my life, and not become paralyzed by limiting (fear based) beliefs for days, weeks, or months on end.

 

HALLE-FUCKING-LUJAH!!!

 

You are NOT the voice inside your head who makes you feel crappy about your life, body, work, relationships, etc.  You are the one who is silenced by the fear, the one who stands back and watches the chaos unfold.  

 

“If you truly knew how beautiful you are, you would fall at your own feet.” – Byron Katie

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LOTS OF LOVE!!!!!

Sarah

We Live in a MAGICAL World ✈✈✈

Wow!  Well this is CRAZYYY!

I completely forgot that I wrote a blog post a couple of months ago, regarding this next blog, that I am about to share with you. It wasn’t until I lived through a unique sequence of events, that I realized I had already written a blog about my travel intentions.

 

 And now there is so much JUICY news to share! 

To summarize the blog post (that I wrote back in April), it explored an overwhelming feeling to travel and #EXPLOREAnd not just anywhere, but somewhere tropical.  I had my own sense of #ISLANDFEVERI didn’t know where it was coming from. Was I meant to travel, or not? And what was the meaning behind it all? I didn’t know.  All I knew was that I was experiencing a strong sense to travel, which then moved me to write THIS (click to read previous blog post).

 

There were a series of events that occurred after I wrote blog post.  I can’t pin point the exact dates of each event, but it was roughly 2 weeks after I wrote the first blog.

 

It must have been in the beginning of April when the first event took place.  My roommate had an Outside Magazine lying around the house, normally this magazine wouldn’t catch my eye, however, the cover was titled ‘20 Best Trips’This intrigued me.

 

I browsed through the magazine, seeing if anything resonated with me.  Nothing did.  I let it be. 

A couple of days later, I was in a friend’s car and this SAME magazine was sitting on his dashboard. “Weird,” I thought.  I took another browse through the magazine, but again, nothing resonated.  I let it be.

It must have been a week later, when I was on my way to visit my sister in San Diego, and as I was walking off the airplane, I glanced over my shoulder to see a man reading the SAME magazine.

 

At this point, I was like, okay there is something happening here.  I didn’t know what it was, but I went to buy this magazine for the sole purpose of feeling like I should have it in my possession. 

I got off the plane, went to the nearest newsstand, and purchased the magazine.  Again, I browsed through it, seeing if this time around something popped out at me.  Still nothing.

 Then, as I was sitting at the gate, waiting to depart, a question subtly arose:  “I wonder where the cover of this magazine was shot?” I thought to myself.

 

Here is the cover:

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It was somewhere tropical and looked like my kind of place! 

It was too late to call Outside Magazine, as their offices had closed for the day.  So, I let it be.

On April 23rd, my Birthday, I went to a local coffee shop to do some writing, and as I reached for my computer, I noticed that I had had the Outside magazine in my backpack.  I took it out, pondered the cover for a second, and then decided to call Outside Magazine to see where they shot the cover of their April 2014 issue. 

 

Drum roll please….. Palawan.  

 

As I began researching Palawan, I soon realized that it was an island in the Phillippines, which excited me, as I could picture myself possibly traveling to this beautiful and remote #ISLAND.  I mean why else had I been led to this magazine!? 

 

I let this idea swarm through my mind for about a month.   

I was pretty excited about the prospect of traveling to Palawan, however, I decided to be open to any other ideas that may come my way.  I didn’t want to close the door on Palawan, but I also didn’t want to be closed off to any other possibilities.

 

One morning after I meditated, I set an #INTENTION for the day:  To be open to receive a sign from the Universe.  Palawan wasn’t even on my mind when I made this intention.  I just wanted to be available to any sign that the Universe may be trying to show me. 

Soon after that, I headed to the coffee shop.  As I was talking to the barista, a man behind me began talking with me.  Long story short, I ended up telling him that I wanted to travel and that I was thinking of going to an Island in the Philippines, but that I was waiting for a sign.  He then told me that he had a friend who ran an orphanage in the Philippines.  I asked where and he said ….. PALAWAN!  

 

LIKE WHATTTTTT! 

 

 Mind you, I live in a town the size of only 2,000 people, so the chances of this happening, are very slim!

 

After conversing with this man for a bit, I remember thinking: if this isn’t a sign, I don’t know what is.  I could wonder, going back and forth in my head, if this is yet a #TRUE sign and if I should perhaps wait for another one to come, just to make triple sure.  Or I could notice how I feel in my body when I ask myself a question that pertains to Palawan. How does it feel when I think about traveling to Palawan?  I get a warm and excited feeling in my heart space.  Almost a knowing feeling;  A feeling that tells me that Palawan is where I am supposed to go.  It feels scary for sure, but it doesn’t make me want to crawl out of my skin.

 

So with that being said, I will trust in that feeling and a little in the unknown, as scary as that may be, and I will follow that straight to Palawan, Philippines.

I am in such awe that life magically steers us into directions we once never thought imaginable.

 

 

We truly do live in a MAGICAL WORLD!!!!!

 

 I am set to go to Palawan at the end of October.  If you have any suggestions, PLEASE feel free to email me and give me your two cents.  😉

 

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With Love and CURIOUSITY,

Sarah

Feeling Pressured by YOURSELF? Sit and #BREATHE


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Fo reaaaallllll! Goodness #gracious! This is exactly how I #FEEL right now!

As I try to sit and #write from an authentic place within myself, my mind keeps interrupting and steering me off into weird territories! I feel pressured to write, which feels very uncomfortable in my #body. I began to journal about this weird feeling, just to clear the air a bit, but I only became more confused as to why I felt this way. And then I saw this quote, and suddenly, I felt much better.

Sometimes, there are no words to explain the #craziness that goes on in our heads! I think I will sit still, take a couple of deep #breathes, and when I feel ready, begin again. #nopressure

Island #FEVER

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Over the past couple of days, or weeks, I have felt this urge to travel, in particular, to somewhere tropical.  I don’t know where this feeling is coming from or what it may lead to, but I know that it is there.  I was taught, by Martha Beck, that once you feel something, really feel it in your body, the next best step is to let it go.  Allow the Universe to take it from your hands.  That is more or less what I have been trying to do.  However, it keeps reappearing.

There is this overwhelming feeling (in the greatest and most mystical way) within me to #EXPLORE.  The wildest part about this mysterious scenario, is that on my #NEWYEARS intention jar (see below), the word which I chose for 2014 was #EXPLORER.  I find it funny that I am now feeling this urge to explore.

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I chose to write this blog post because I felt the need to document it.  When I have feelings like this, it is always fun to go back a few months or years after and see what came from those feelings.

After I post this, I am going to let it this feeling flow out from my hands.  I truly believe, that if I am supposed to travel and explore, it will happen.  However, if I attach myself to a certain outcome, such as: where will I go, when will I go, or who will I go with (although I would like to go alone) (there I go again ;)), then I may block the Universe from trying to help and lead me.

So this is me, handing it over to the Universe.  I know that what will be, will be, and if I continue to think and ponder about it, I may just end up manipulating the entire situation.

I know deep within me that this year calls for me to #EXPLORE.  I feel it in my bones.  And I will let the Universe handle the rest. 🙂

I will Keep all y’all POSTED!

LOTS OF LOVE

Sarah

Monday’s Perspective

Today, you may wake up and feel uninspired to make today count.
However, what if you changed-up your perspective a little? Rather than dreading your day to come, what if you accepted the feeling which is causing you to suffer?
Imagine yourself opening the door to this feeling.
Sit with it for a second, without trying to ‘fix’ it. 
Now, after welcoming this feeling, try to envision it flowing out of you. 
At this time, choose to focus your attention on the things that bring you happiness, in this moment.
It could be as little as a morning kiss from your dog.
Make a pact with yourself, that today, you will try your best to focus on all that is good in your life.
It can be tricky, but once we begin to practice this way of life, we allow other things, which also bring us happiness, into our lives.
As Martha Beck says,
“Where your attention goes, your life goes.” 
And to be honest, when you stop and look around, this life is PRETTY AMAZING. 
#ENJOYtoday

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Jiroeman Kimura Celebrates his 116th Birthday!

Wow!  This is incredible.  I found this article on Intent.com, a website that shares positive and inspirational guidance and helpful tips to live a happier and more balanced lifestyle!

Jiroeman Kimura celebrated his 116th Birthday and is presently the oldest person living today.  He has also set the world record as the oldest person to EVER live- as far as we know.  Check out this great article and learn how Jiroeman has lived such a happy and long life.

http://intentblog.com/worlds-oldest-person-celebrates-his-116th-birthday/

ENJOY!

 

Think Small: Alastair Humphreys at TEDxOxbridge

Wow! I found a video that held my attention for longer than 10 minutes! Not to say that I don’t find videos inspiring if they are 10 minutes or shorter, but I haven’t found a inspiring video that has held my attention in a little white! 🙂 (That also may be because I haven’t been looking ;)) shhhh…

Well this video inspired me! Alastair Humphreys talks about worthwhile adventures- big or small adventures. He quotes it ever so very nicely when he says, “Adventure is just about doing something you’ve never done— doing it with enthusiasm and curiosity: doing something difficult with… passion.”
DOING SOMETHING DIFFICULT WITH PASSION.
That was KEY for me. Without having watched the video and only seeing that last part of his quote, I knew this video was going to be a hit!

I love adventure, but at times I think it needs to be over the top to be actually called an adventure. That is not true. We can do small things that we have never done before and call it an adventure… like riding your bike to work or taking a new route to work.

I love writing, inspiring people, listing to other’s inspiring stories, being with nature, traveling, creating art work… so if I could combine all that I love and make it into some type of adventure I think the outcome would be amazing!

We must begin somewhere even if it is small. SMALL is good! It is a start that could lead to something great!

ENJOY the TEDx Talk video by Alastair Humphreys. Cheers! 🙂

“Wind Mills” William Kwakwamba’s Inspiring Story.

William Kwakwamba’s inspiring story teaches us to dream big.

There is no urgency to compose a final goal when we first act upon an inspiring idea. The outcome and/or finished product will come in time if we can use our time wisely and effectively by focusing on the idea at hand.

I never knew that I would create a blog to help inspire others live greater lives. However, I continued to write not knowing where it would lead, but following my love for writing and one day I had an idea to create TheLove4Happiness.
Now here I am:)

Kwakwamba had an idea to use the wind to somehow help his people. He did not know what it would equal to, if he would succeed or fail, but he acted upon his idea and it lead him to this inspiring story, a trip to the U.S., and funding for his education.

If you can take a chance and listen to your heart, your dreams will follow:)

ME:)