Live through Love


This quote caught my attention the first time I saw it. The original quote was by Abraham Lincoln. He quoted, “I do not like that man, I must get to know him better.” I wanted to change it and gear it towards woman, only because I feel like females tend to be more critical of one another.

I can remember being in the fifth grade and innocently watching myself and others bully and be bullied. The cruel behavior that young girls are capable of still boggles my mind. And although in the 5th grade, we were too young to comprehend the cliques and bullying, those memories are still with us today.

I have witnessed and experienced the ups and downs of many friendships. I have judged and been judged thousands and thousands of times. But in all honesty, judging another being does not change that person, it only reflects the person I am. All judgments stem from within; whatever we see as a threat or negative quality in another person, we first see in ourselves.

Take a look below to see what steps are needed to commit to living a more loving and non-judgment lifestyle.

Step 1:
Be Aware.
Listen to your thoughts when you judge another person. What do you feel? Acknowledging how you feel when placing judgements on another being is the first step towards recognizing where the judgement is stemming from.

Step 2:
Treat yourself with more respect and love. The reason you are judging someone is because you are not fully comfortable or loved by yourself. Think nicely about yourself and try not to speak down about yourself. Remember: You are your own best friend.

Step 3:
Take Action.
Now that you are aware of when and why you are judging another person, it is time to slowly touch on the brakes. When you feel yourself judging another person try to replace the judgement with a nice thought. Sometimes I apologize to myself and to that person in my mind and then note to try better next time.

It is essential to have an open mind and heart.  Rather then pointing out only the negative qualities in a person, try seeing the other side, the positive attributes in a person.  This may seem hard at first, but once practiced, it soon will become a habit.  Focus on the good in yourself and in others and good will come to you.

If we can commit to seeing those whom we do not like through a more loving lens, we will then create more peace and love for ourselves and those around us.

Love yourself the way you would want someone else to love you. Then love others the way you love yourself.

Because Kindness keeps the World Afloat!

Life Vest created such an inspiring video to encourage everyone to be more kind toward one another!

The great thing about performing random acts of kindness is that those acts cause a ripple effect to occur. You perform an act of kindness towards another being and soon it catches up to you, showing you that Karma does exist and treating others with kindness brings more kindness your way!

I say that we all carry out a random act of kindness towards another being (a person we don’t know) and see what comes our way! I will go first and then once I receive a random act of kindness I’ll write a new post and call it “The Rippling Effect of Kindness!”

Live with Intention! The Intention of being KIND!

Cheers! 🙂

Bad Day to Challenging Day to Character Building Day

Have you ever had one of those days where you just want to cry?

It’s crazy how one week I can have a great and happy mindset, and then a week after it can change to the complete opposite.

I think because I am in a transitional period in my life, it is harder for me to feel secure. I know that living for every day, rather than the future or the past, sets my worries at ease and fills me with everlasting happiness. However, today and yesterday have been challenging. I find myself allowing my mind to control my emotions, along with my thoughts.
It seems like when it rains it pours!

It is harder to keep my head up when there are so many thoughts swarming through my mind. And as my thoughts grow negative, I find it much more difficult to get myself out of the syphon. As if I am now forced to walk 10 miles, rather than just the 5.
As long as I allow my mind to think bad thoughts, the hill will only grow taller and steeper.

I like to believe that these events are happening for a reason. Even if that reason is to only help me learn and grow from my mistakes.

Freeing my mind from the downward spiral of negative thinking can be hard, and right now I feel like it’s almost drowning me. However, when I write and express these feelings, it helps me ease my mind and I can feel a sense of relief. I also like to list everything that I am grateful for, as I know that there are many others in this world with less fortunate lives.

While speaking to my Mom about this matter, she said something that stuck with me. Our society has so many expectations, and when we don’t fulfill those (made up) expectations, we sometimes feel guilty, sad, or both. And at the end of the day, all anyone wants is to be happy. As long as we have food, water, and shelter to protect us, we should be happy and grateful. Many people in this world have to work hard for their food and water, and sometimes don’t even have a house which will protect them. Our society confuses us by making us believe we need more than we actually do. If we can take a step back, realize that our life isn’t as complicated as we make it out to be, and be grateful for what we have, then hopefully we can see through societies ways and make it back to true selves.

It is not easy to turn our challenging days turn into a great days. However, right now that is my goal!
“We must be the change we wish to see in the world.” — MAHATMA GANDHI

If anyone else is feeling like this or has felt like this, keep your head up and share your story! Help inspire others! 🙂