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MUSIC 4 YOUR SOUL
I LOVE MUSIC!
I find that when I am in a sad or flustered state, music has a way of bringing me out of it and showing me
the truth. That my problem is only as big as I choose to make it and usually it is not as tragic as I believe it to be because music always has a way of uplifting me and bringing me back to a peaceful state. Everything stops for those three minutes of music playing time and I am enthralled in that one
song, nothing else. I think one of the best solutions, which allows you to return back to the
present moment and help you to forget about your mind busyness, is listening to MUSIC!
Below I have listed songs which feed light to my soul and resonate feelings of joy and peace throughout my body.
I hope you can also relate to the songs below and if you have a song which uplifts you, be sure to let me know and I will post it!
P.S. I will continue to upload songs to this blog post as I find them or remember them. 😉
Israel “IZ” Kamakawiwoʻole
CHARLES & EDDIE
I Find it Hard to NOT Live in the Moment…
While visiting Costa Rica, I had the amazing opportunity of meeting a few new and wonderful friends. One of whom shared many inspiring and insightful words which I still hold close to my heart and try to incorporate into my life daily.
I have discovered that living in the PRESENT moment brings me peace and happiness.
While staying in Costa Rica this belief sank into the deepest part of me, reassuring me that this way of life is the only way to live!
In Puerto Viejo, Costa Rica, the way of life is much easier and more simple. Living in the moment almost comes natural. Worries seem afar, if not absent, and life is lived for the day which lies ahead, nothing less and nothing more.
Returning to the states I wanted to maintain the same mind-set which I had in Costa Rica. I realized this would be difficult, yet I saw no other option. While being home for less than a month, people began asking me questions regarding my future. Questions like, what was I going to do? How was I going to make a living? Where was I going to live? These questions seemed tedious at the time, however after continually being asked, I became overwhelmed. I wanted to yell and say I DONT KNOW!!! But I resisted and settled with this…
I will figure it out, as I always do, but support my decision to live in the present moment. And those questions which you find so important will be answered when the time is right:)
After the second conversation like this, I felt the urge to e-mail my friend in Costa Rica and ask him if he lived in the moment and what his thoughts were. His answer was this…
I find it hard to not live in the moment. While humanity is relatively evolved in different ways than other life… I feel that the expectations of the future have been detrimental. Now is all we have. Waiting to do something tomorrow that you WANT to do today is not guaranteed. I do not think I can live in anything but this moment. No plans, just options. When people plan ‘for me’ I choose to add it to a list of options that may be up for consideration. If I erase, forget or ignore the option… nonetheless it still is an option. So just put the right in front of the left…until you get to a cliff. Then decide whether to jump, walk another way or learn how to fly. 🙂
I hope this answers any question you may have! 🙂
Living moment by moment is truly the only way to live. The past has been lived, the future is to be lived, but this moment (RIGHT NOW) is alive and living. So forget about the past, yet learn from your mistakes, allow the future to be, and enjoy your time RIGHT NOW! 🙂
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe *Quote*
Relationships: A Mix Up of Tips :)
Relationships are not black and white. There are no rules when it comes to the relationship between you and your significant other!
The only thing you must have for one another is unconditional love. When you share an unconditional love for someone, you can communicate effectively, share an understanding of each others wants and needs, and be able to check your ego at the door.
Relationships can be hard at times, but they can help you grow into the person that you are destined to be. So where your heart on your sleeve and make it worth it, because life is too short not to!
From my experiences in this department, I have realized that there are no right or wrong answers. You may feel something one minute and feel entirely different the next minute.
Lose all expectations, and live for each and every moment, because those are the moments that count and will be remembered!
Stop thinking so much! Get out of your head and back to your heart. And remember that it will always be okay in the end:)
You must first love yourself the way you would want someone else to love you, so that when you meet someone special, you can blossom into an everlasting and loving relationship.
Replacing Judgements with Love
If we judge others, we have no time to love them. – Mother Theresa
Why do we judge others?
Fears and insecurities formed by our egos.
What gives us the right to make judgments upon others?
We have no right.
What do we benefit by judging others?
A slight and momentarily feeling of satisfaction.
Judging others is something we all developed at a young age; over the course of our lives, this habit can improve, disappear, or worsen, depending on that individuals life’s experiences.
Judging others is something that I acquired at a very young age. As I matured into adolescence it grew worse. It only started to diminish, as I began accepting and loving myself for who I was.
Below are a few questions that pertain to judging others. I will answer each question based off of the lessons and life experiences that I have learned in my life:)
Why did I judge others?
To feel better about myself.
There was a time, when being critical of others, played a significant role in my life. I allowed my ego to take control of my mind. I believed that judging others boosted my self-esteem, when in reality, I was only fueling the fire for the ego, and providing it life.
Judgements do not come from the heart, they are created from the ego. This means when we judge others, we are living through our egos and not through our hearts.
Although I still slip up and place judgements upon others, I have come to a place in my life, where the need to judge others has been replaced by the new-found love that I have for myself. When you begin to love yourself, the insecurities start to die out, and rather than sizing people up in your own head, you come to accept them just the way they are.
What were the most recurring judgments I made about others?
This is where most of my judgements stemmed from.
I lacked self-confidence as a teenager. This lack of confidence continued on into my early twenties, which is why most of my judgements pertain to my own personal self-image.
During my teen years and early twenties, comparing myself to others became a daily habit. I would constantly look at different body images, either to make sure I looked better or often realizing I didn’t and then feeling bad about myself. My inner ego craved to be the skinniest and the prettiest, and judging others provided me with the reassurance I thought I needed.
How have I slowed my judgements?
Loving and accepting myself just the way I am.
When I feel a negative thought arising, I bring myself back to the present moment and stop my thinking process, to ensure that that thought will leave my mind.
When you focus on the present moment, your mind has nowhere to go but right where you are.
I also like to remind myself on a daily basis, that I love and accept my body just the way is it.
Do not allow your ego to make you believe false accusations about yourself or anyone else.
Stop looking at celebrity magazines or tv shows!!! It’s all bogus! 😉
And remember what we were taught as children:
Treat others the way you would like to be treated.
Although this seems like a simple concept, many of us forget to practice it in our daily lives.
This reminder can be used as a very useful tool when you feel the need to judge someone.
What if someone was judging you? Sizing you up in their minds, or thinking rude things about you! It is not something that any of us like to feel. So why make others feel that way? Especially when a great deal of the time, we don’t know any of the struggles and tribulations that person has gone through.
Until you can walk in that person’s shoes, see what they have seen and feel what they have felt, you have no right to make assumptions based on how they look, their intelligence level, lifestyle choices, income level, etc.
We must all accept and love one another in order to evolve into the humans we know we can be:)
Accept everyone, love everyone, and be happy.
Or as Mother Theresa quoted:
If we judge others, we have no time to love them.
Be good, be happy, be true, be you!
It Doesn’t Interest me What you do For a Living……
When I lived in Los Angeles, I was asked regularly what it was that I did for a living.
This question intimidated me. I felt my entire demeanor change when asked this question. I felt like I had something to prove to these people, or maybe it was to myself.
I was young, working in the fashion industry, and still not sure what I was passionate for.
I felt that when I would answer this question, it didn’t reflect who I truly was as a person, but only shadowed who I was. It made me feel uncomfortable.
Our society tends to lean towards being superficial and materialistic. The things you have seem to mirror the type of person you are, rather than the person you are on the inside.
The more money, the more well respected one is. The more power, the more one is looked up to.
Now I am not knocking those who have money, or who have power in their job!
I have many friends whom I look up to who are wealthy or own their own successful businesses.
All I am saying, is that we should start looking through our hearts more, and let go of all our judgments and egotistical opinions that our minds so often create.
We may all have different talents, careers, friends, finical situations etc, but bottom line, is that we are all human beings, wishing for the same thing: HAPPINESS.
The quote below is a great reminder for all of us.
When meeting someone new, open your heart and look beyond that persons status and open your eyes to who they are as person.
Ask questions that will reveal who they are on the inside, not just on the outside.
Performing Kindness Towards Others :)
As I was waiting in line at the coffee shop today, the barista announced that their credit card machine was not working. A couple started to turn around and head for the door, only to be stopped by a man who offered to buy them their coffee.
I love witnessing these types of situations! Its a very refreshing feeling, seeing strangers looking out for one another.
The man seemed pleased with himself, while the couple looked happily surprised and appeared very grateful.
I Love it!
Performing random acts of kindness towards others, is something we could all work on. It generates great feelings within and can also assist in creating more smiles in this world:)
Practice Compassion :-)
Treat EVERYDAY as it’s your Birthday:)
As I woke up this morning, I lay in bed thinking of how grateful I was to live another year here on earth:)
I woke up to my purest self, telling myself that this day was going to be great, because it was my birthday. I was going to be nicer to people, tame my ego, and enjoy every moment I had.
It is funny and ironic, how, on a regular day, I could allow my day to be hampered by these types of things.
However, today was unlike the others; nothing was going to effect this lovely day that lied ahead of me!
This I knew, as I was in total control of this day.
If I felt the need to snap at my sister, I would to hold it in (because we all know that a quick argument isn’t worth ruining a day over).
If I felt large and in charge, I would stop my thoughts and be grateful for the body that I have and realize that it could be a lot worse.
If I felt inclined to be annoyed at my boyfriend for getting drunk and not calling me to say goodnight, because his phone died. I would stop and remember that he is off doing an amazing expedition for himself, and his phone dying is not his fault. It is okay:)
These things I was willing to do, because I wanted to create a great day for myself. I knew inside that I would succeed, because I was the one who had control over my day, no one else!
You see, on a regular day, the following situations could possibly be the deciding factor on whether it was good or bad day: a quick bickering session with my sister, negative thoughts about my body, or allowing my ego to fog the view from my heart.
But today, I had fresh and new outlook on life. Everything within this day was beautiful.
Therefore, the valuable point that I am trying to make, is that you are always in control of your day. You may not be able to control others, their words or actions, but you are able to control how you react.
You have 100% control of your mind, which can create good or bad days, or in between.
Be aware of what you are thinking and who you are thinking about.
THINK GOOD THOUGHTS!
Try to be the bigger person in certain situations. I know that it can be very hard at times, believe me, I deal with it almost daily. I have the largest ego when it comes to the relationship with my sister. I always have to be right! However, we all know that I am not always right! Nevertheless, allowing my ego to get in the way of our relationship is very childish.
So whether it is your birthday or not, try to be better! If you want better, you will do better:)
Each morning you have a fresh start! And even if you slip up here and there (which is inevitable at times), try hard to pick yourself up and change your mind set.
CREATE a great day for yourself!!
*The energy you put into your day, whether it results in a good or bad day, is the same. The outcomes are just different! Decide what you want and make it happen! 🙂