HELLO, some of my favorite people!
Let me start off with a TRUTH BOMB:
The more YOU question YOUR fears, the less they will scare YOU.
I was introduced to Byron Katie over a year ago, and her book and work changed my life. Since then, whenever I have felt down in the dumps, I’ve used The Work to investigate my thinking.
Our suffering- our anxiety, depression, overwhelm, and utter confusion, is caused by what we are believing.
As Byron Katie says, A thought is harmless unless we believe it. It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering. Attaching to a thought means believing that it’s true, without inquiring. A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.
Here are a few of my limiting beliefs: “You’re not doing enough, you will never amount to anything, you need to be doing more to reach true success.”
I want to share a story with you.
This morning as I was in my bathroom, getting ready for the day, I felt a limiting belief creep into my mind. The sign that I am believing a limiting belief is when I begin to feel physical sensations in my body. It shows up as resistance, which feels like two bulls fighting each other inside my chest. It’s intense and scary.
The thought that started to gain momentum this morning began as a small voice inside my head. It told me that I needed to know exactly what I was going to do today (PRESSURE). And then it went on to say: “You need to be MORE productive. You need to get MORE shit done. You better not waste this day.”
Two words: HOW RUDE!
I know you are just as familiar with these thoughts as I am, so let me ask you something: If someone spoke to you that way, would you still be friends with them?
Let me also ask you this: Would you ever speak to a friend and/or sister like that? Would you call them up and demand that they DO MORE and be MORE PRODUCTIVE with their time!?
I have a hunch that you wouldn’t. We would never treat our friends or sisters like that.
Okay (I am about to get in your face) so WHY on earth do we think it is okay to treat ourselves like that!? Why do we BELIEVE everything we think, especially the beliefs that are so nasty and mean!?
The first answer that comes to me is this: We have NEVER been taught to question our beliefs. We didn’t receive that type of education growing up. How are we to know that if a thought causes SUFFERING, IT ISN’T TRUE?
This is why I do what I do, to help YOU understand that YOU are not the voice inside of YOUR head and you don’t have to believe everything it has to say. There is another way. A way in which will free you from the misery of your anxiety, depression, confusion, overwhelm, etc.
This leads me back to this mornings story….
Usually, when my inner mean girl comes out to play (THE FEAR), I have a few techniques I use to defuse her power, and most of the time it works, lately however, she’s been kicking my ass a bit.
But something different happened this morning. I felt a new energy emerge from my body. It was open and loving. It felt like two open and loving arms reaching out and welcoming the fear. There was no fight and no fleeing.
“Wow. That’s what that feels like,” I thought to myself.
And then this nugget of gold came to me: The more we question our beliefs, the less scared of them we become.
I have practiced many tools to help me DISBELIEVE the limiting beliefs that make me feel small, insecure, lost, depressed, confused, anxious, etc. It isn’t always easy, but it’s paying off, because there is a new energy emerging from within me.
To be able to see my fear and react to it with loving and open arms, is one of the best feelings and gifts in the world. Why? Because there is no fight. What a relief.
The more we fight or flee from our fears, the louder and more savage they become.
“What we resist, persists.”
It is my honor to share this experience with all of you. The more willing we are to investigate our thinking, the thinking which causes us to feel so unhappy, the happier we become and the more connected and confident we feel.
As Martha Beck told me yesterday:
Our fears block us from feeling the love and seeing the truth from the Universe, ourselves, and others.
There is nothing that isn’t happening for us. We live in a loving and kind Universe.
The Universe is on our side- it has our backs.
Believe that to be true, and see how it carries you the rest of the day.
If you are interested in knowing more about The Work, you can visit http://www.thework.com and/or reach out to me. Get the support you need to feel your best.
I wish you lots of love and joy for the rest of your day. And remember, you matter.