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As I was driving to #Montana this evening, I reached a very familiar place, a place where I had once shared many special memories with an old lover.  I began to feel sad.  It hit me, yet again, that our paths had severed, and it was just me driving to Montana, and not ‘us’.

As a few more memories floated into my mind, I took a deep breath and looked out the window.  There, I saw the most beautiful sunset, setting over the #Bridger Mountain Range.  It was in that moment that I realized, I had a choice.  I could follow these feelings of sadness, which mind you, I have done countless of times already, or I could #CHANGEUP my perspective.

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I decided to #changeup my perspective.  Rather than losing myself in the sadness, I chose to feel grateful for experiencing such a great love.  To have had such wonderful memories with someone I care so deeply for, felt refreshing.  I then reminded myself, that although we are no longer together, I will always carry a piece of him in my heart, and for our time together, I will always remain grateful.

I glanced outside the window, to witness, once again, the magnificent sunset.  Shortly after, another feeling came to me, it was a feeling of #PEACE.  The peace I observed in the sunset, I realized, was also inside of me.  I can’t explain it in words, but in retrospect, by allowing myself to feel sad, but then recognizing that I could choose another perspective, allowed me to let go of the unnecessary and repetitive thought patterns, which have caused me such despair in the past, and bring me to a place of freedom and peace, #THESUNSET.

We all have a choice.  I know at times our thoughts can be over bearing and sometimes seem too much to handle.  But there is always another way.  By practicing compassion towards ourselves, allowing ourselves to feel, and then realizing that we don’t have to engage in every thought, will set us #FREE.

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Rememeber: Be gentle with yourself, allow yourself to feel, but know when to back out and take the high road.

IT TAKES #PRACTICE, like anything in life.  But a practice which will set us #FREE and make us #HAPPIER human beings.

Happy Exit, Next Right! :)

Inner Happiness, Self-Love, and Self-growth cannot be manifested over night. Just as becoming a better athlete takes months and months of training and dedication, so does self-growth.

If we want to seek positive changes, we must take responsibility for every area of our lives and commit to becoming better people.

When I first embarked on my journey, I was a very unhappy young woman. I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do in life, I was in a dysfunctional relationship, which consumed every part of me, and I was surrounding myself with people who brought the worst out in me.
I had reached my limit and I knew it was time to make significant changes in my life so I could become happier.

Throughout a two-year span I tried as hard I as I possibly could to make substantial shifts in my life. Although at times I struggled and felt as if there was no light shining on my path, I kept pushing myself until I reached a place of contentment.

And today, I continue to work on improving myself, daily. There are no tricks, but only the ample want and desire to better yourself!
Take time each day or different times throughout the day to remind yourself of who you are, what you stand for, and what you want in life. Then strive for that each day and I can promise you that your life will become more rewarding and fulfilling!

You must first take a step in the right direction! Commit yourself, do the work, and watch your life transform.

Below I have listed the positive changes I made in my life throughout the past three years and habits I continue to work on daily.

1. I read every self-help book that I thought would help me become happier.
2. I left where I was living and the people I was surrounding myself with.
3. I moved back home to re-center myself.
4. Traveled.
5. Realized that my thoughts were causing me pain so I made a New Years resolution to start controlling my thoughts or at least be more aware of them.
6. Started trying to live in the moment, forgetting about the past, and allowing the future to be the future.
7. Wrote A LOT!!! (Expressed myself)
8. Surrounded myself with loving and supportive friends.
9. Listened to my heart, not my head.
10. Fell in love with myself.
11. Fell in love with a great and loving young man.
12. Created a Happiness Blog.
13. Dedicated time for myself, daily.
14. Found a new passion, unexpectedly.
15. Traveled again and had a life changing experience.
16. Began meditating daily.

Practices I continue to work on…
1. Living in the moment
2. Controlling my thoughts
3. Meditation
4. Living life through my heart not my head (ego).
5. Place no judgments upon anyone, including myself.
5. Leave my ego aside.
6. Gratitude Journals.
7. Happiness Journals.
8. Writing
9. Seek the positives in all situations! There is always something great to take away from a hard time.
10. Replacing thoughts of limitation to thoughts of abundance.
11. Continue to accept and love my body just as it is!

The only person holding you back from a beautiful life is yourself! It is hard to digest, but once you accept this fact you will be able to move forward and slowly change the way you view your life and yourself. You must start somewhere!
YOU CAN DO IT! 🙂

UPlifting Reads!

Below is a list of books which have made positive influences in my life! Each book has provided me with feelings of happiness and peace. I enjoy reading books that reconfirm everything that I believe in and inspire me to become a “better me!”

Each book is different, yet shares a very special messages to its readers. I hope you can take away as much as I did after reading each book:)

ENJOY!

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Bad Day to Challenging Day to Character Building Day

Have you ever had one of those days where you just want to cry?

It’s crazy how one week I can have a great and happy mindset, and then a week after it can change to the complete opposite.

I think because I am in a transitional period in my life, it is harder for me to feel secure. I know that living for every day, rather than the future or the past, sets my worries at ease and fills me with everlasting happiness. However, today and yesterday have been challenging. I find myself allowing my mind to control my emotions, along with my thoughts.
It seems like when it rains it pours!

It is harder to keep my head up when there are so many thoughts swarming through my mind. And as my thoughts grow negative, I find it much more difficult to get myself out of the syphon. As if I am now forced to walk 10 miles, rather than just the 5.
As long as I allow my mind to think bad thoughts, the hill will only grow taller and steeper.

I like to believe that these events are happening for a reason. Even if that reason is to only help me learn and grow from my mistakes.

Freeing my mind from the downward spiral of negative thinking can be hard, and right now I feel like it’s almost drowning me. However, when I write and express these feelings, it helps me ease my mind and I can feel a sense of relief. I also like to list everything that I am grateful for, as I know that there are many others in this world with less fortunate lives.

While speaking to my Mom about this matter, she said something that stuck with me. Our society has so many expectations, and when we don’t fulfill those (made up) expectations, we sometimes feel guilty, sad, or both. And at the end of the day, all anyone wants is to be happy. As long as we have food, water, and shelter to protect us, we should be happy and grateful. Many people in this world have to work hard for their food and water, and sometimes don’t even have a house which will protect them. Our society confuses us by making us believe we need more than we actually do. If we can take a step back, realize that our life isn’t as complicated as we make it out to be, and be grateful for what we have, then hopefully we can see through societies ways and make it back to true selves.

It is not easy to turn our challenging days turn into a great days. However, right now that is my goal!
“We must be the change we wish to see in the world.” — MAHATMA GANDHI

If anyone else is feeling like this or has felt like this, keep your head up and share your story! Help inspire others! 🙂

Me:)

“Simplicity”

What are you living for if not for radiant health, lasting happiness, and inner fulfillment?

Traveling to Costa Rica is a trip I will never forget.  The people I met and the experiences I gained will forever live within me.

The most life changing lesson that I took with me is simple.
It is this:
To simplify one’s life. 

As of today, I can list a handful of things which bring me happiness.
Sunrises and sunsets, playing with my puppy, writing in order to help and inspire others, meditating, being with nature, spending time with my loved ones, exercising, reading, listening to music, gaining knowledge from my peers, horseback riding, and laughing:).  
All of which cost nothing, yet provide me with pure happiness inside and out.

Before this trip, I was only talking the talk without walking the walk.  

I told myself I wasn’t concerned with the materialistic “things” in life, yet you could find me obsessing about the newest designer handbags and shoes. 

I was happy, yet I was continually asking myself questions concerning my future. Questions like, shall I move and if so, where? What would I do if I left my current job? And what should I be doing with my spare time? Although these questions are sometimes helpful, many times they cause me and others stress and anxiety. When I exist in the present day, I feel happier and I am able to leave my worries aside.

Society tends to influence us into thinking a certain way. It’s as if we have been programmed to believe that happiness is reached once we have obtained the “American Dream”. This is so silly! Each of us can reach our own happiness and inner fulfillment if we stay true to ourselves without allowing society to influence our views and beliefs.

It is the simple things in life that bring us everlasting happiness, rather than momentary happiness.

After I returned from Costa Rica, I had a clearer outlook on life. I felt as if layers had been stripped away, revealing a new essence of my true self.

Rather than saying I was going to live a certain way, I have now been able to apply “living in the present” by simplifying my life on a day-to-day basis.
This was not an over night change. Working on bettering myself has taken a lot of time, practice and dedication. However it is the most rewarding feeling in the world! Once you decide that you want to live a happier and more fulfilling life, and you make the first initial step, the universe will follow your lead and your life will begin to change.
You must first change your way of thinking, before transformation begins.
Either your mind controls you, or you control your mind.

I may not know what my next move will be or what I will be doing tomorrow at 1pm or in the coming months. However, what I DO know is that worrying or questioning myself about these concerns only causes me to feel sadness and frustration.
I am learning to live each and every day as though it were my last, because let’s be honest, no one really knows when their last day will be.

When I simplify my life and live in the present moment, I am filled with greater peace and happiness.

So rather than talking the talk, try putting your words into action, and live the best life you can live! It starts NOW:) GO!