What Would PEACE Do?

What would PEACE do?

I have been asking myself this question for the past week. I ask it when I feel my ego trying to push me out of the way and take over the spotlight.

A few days ago, while on the phone with my sister, a certain topic came up, which my ego assumes it knows EVERYTHING about. I felt my ego (the control freak in me), craving so desperately to interrupt her and hand out my two sense, only to be “RIGHT”. When I felt this urge, I took a few deep breathes, brought myself back to the present moment, and asked myself, “What would PEACE do?” I found that when I anchored myself back to the present moment, by taking a few deep breathes and then asking myself this question, my ego disappeared. And the answer which came to me was this: LISTEN. Be PRESENT.


By fully listening to my sister, without allowing my ego to judge every word coming from her mouth, I was able to connect with her in a much more fulfilling and peaceful manner. Once we realize that we DO NOT have to participate in our ego’s self-destructive games, we no longer feel inhibited by our ego. We stop taking ourselves and our lives so seriously. It doesn’t have to be as hard as we make it out to be. By asking ourselves this question before our ego takes flight, we enable our true-selves to shine through. In the end we create more meaningful and heart-felt relationships, with ourselves and with others. The first step, is noticing when it is our egos in play or our authentic selves. Simply, be aware.

Note: This takes continuous practice. There are many times when my ego moves in ever so subtly and takes control. However, by practicing over and over again, the ego slowly loses its grip. If we want to create happier and healthier relationships with others and with ourselves, we must be willing to change.

With Love,
Sarah (TheLove4Happiness)

Happy Exit, Next Right! :)

Inner Happiness, Self-Love, and Self-growth cannot be manifested over night. Just as becoming a better athlete takes months and months of training and dedication, so does self-growth.

If we want to seek positive changes, we must take responsibility for every area of our lives and commit to becoming better people.

When I first embarked on my journey, I was a very unhappy young woman. I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do in life, I was in a dysfunctional relationship, which consumed every part of me, and I was surrounding myself with people who brought the worst out in me.
I had reached my limit and I knew it was time to make significant changes in my life so I could become happier.

Throughout a two-year span I tried as hard I as I possibly could to make substantial shifts in my life. Although at times I struggled and felt as if there was no light shining on my path, I kept pushing myself until I reached a place of contentment.

And today, I continue to work on improving myself, daily. There are no tricks, but only the ample want and desire to better yourself!
Take time each day or different times throughout the day to remind yourself of who you are, what you stand for, and what you want in life. Then strive for that each day and I can promise you that your life will become more rewarding and fulfilling!

You must first take a step in the right direction! Commit yourself, do the work, and watch your life transform.

Below I have listed the positive changes I made in my life throughout the past three years and habits I continue to work on daily.

1. I read every self-help book that I thought would help me become happier.
2. I left where I was living and the people I was surrounding myself with.
3. I moved back home to re-center myself.
4. Traveled.
5. Realized that my thoughts were causing me pain so I made a New Years resolution to start controlling my thoughts or at least be more aware of them.
6. Started trying to live in the moment, forgetting about the past, and allowing the future to be the future.
7. Wrote A LOT!!! (Expressed myself)
8. Surrounded myself with loving and supportive friends.
9. Listened to my heart, not my head.
10. Fell in love with myself.
11. Fell in love with a great and loving young man.
12. Created a Happiness Blog.
13. Dedicated time for myself, daily.
14. Found a new passion, unexpectedly.
15. Traveled again and had a life changing experience.
16. Began meditating daily.

Practices I continue to work on…
1. Living in the moment
2. Controlling my thoughts
3. Meditation
4. Living life through my heart not my head (ego).
5. Place no judgments upon anyone, including myself.
5. Leave my ego aside.
6. Gratitude Journals.
7. Happiness Journals.
8. Writing
9. Seek the positives in all situations! There is always something great to take away from a hard time.
10. Replacing thoughts of limitation to thoughts of abundance.
11. Continue to accept and love my body just as it is!

The only person holding you back from a beautiful life is yourself! It is hard to digest, but once you accept this fact you will be able to move forward and slowly change the way you view your life and yourself. You must start somewhere!

UPlifting Reads!

Below is a list of books which have made positive influences in my life! Each book has provided me with feelings of happiness and peace. I enjoy reading books that reconfirm everything that I believe in and inspire me to become a “better me!”

Each book is different, yet shares a very special messages to its readers. I hope you can take away as much as I did after reading each book:)






Focus on the POSITIVES to diminish the negatives.

Water The Flowers

“In your garden, if you focus on and water the weeds then your garden will be full of them. If you focus on the health and nourishment of your flowers, then your flowers will flourish and the weeds will die from a lack of resources on which to thrive.”

I apply this to almost any life circumstance. Work, Love, Pain, Pride and so forth. For quite some time, I’ve seen myself giving weeds too much attention. I haven’t necessarily watered them… but I have not addressed them accordingly. So in not nurturing my flower or killing off the weeds, the garden is in disarray.
I will not use weed killer. Instead, I will make the flowers so strong, roots so thick, that they over power any negative, parasitic surges of the weed(s).

Give little to no attention to anything that can deprive you of your health. Focus on your personal nourishment. Become so strong that even when opposed you are unfazed in any way. You are not insensitive to the attack nor the demise of the weed. You are figuratively wrapped in your powerful petals that are now in full bloom. Beautiful.

-Christiano Can

I Find it Hard to NOT Live in the Moment…

While visiting Costa Rica, I had the amazing opportunity of meeting a few new and wonderful friends.  One of whom shared many inspiring and insightful words which I still hold close to my heart and try to incorporate into my life daily.

I have discovered that living in the PRESENT moment brings me peace and happiness.

While staying in Costa Rica this belief sank into the deepest part of me, reassuring me that this way of life is the only way to live!

In Puerto Viejo, Costa Rica, the way of life is much easier and more simple. Living in the moment almost comes natural. Worries seem afar, if not absent, and life is lived for the day which lies ahead, nothing less and nothing more.

Returning to the states I wanted to maintain the same mind-set which I had in Costa Rica.  I realized this would be difficult, yet I saw no other option. While being home for less than a month, people began asking me questions regarding my future. Questions like, what was I going to do? How was I going to make a living? Where was I going to live? These questions seemed tedious at the time, however after continually being asked, I became overwhelmed. I wanted to yell and say I DONT KNOW!!! But I resisted and settled with this…

I will figure it out, as I always do, but support my decision to live in the present moment. And those questions which you find so important will be answered when the time is right:)

After the second conversation like this, I felt the urge to e-mail my friend in Costa Rica and ask him if he lived in the moment and what his thoughts were. His answer was this…

I find it hard to not live in the moment.  While humanity is relatively evolved in different ways than other life… I feel that the expectations of the future have been detrimental.  Now is all we have.  Waiting to do something tomorrow that you WANT to do today is not guaranteed.  I do not think I can live in anything but this moment.  No plans, just options.  When people plan ‘for me’ I choose to add it to a list of options that may be up for consideration.  If I erase, forget or ignore the option… nonetheless it still is an option.   So just put the right in front of the left…until you get to a cliff.  Then decide whether to jump, walk another way or learn how to fly. 🙂

I hope this answers any question you may have! 🙂

Living moment by moment is truly the only way to live. The past has been lived, the future is to be lived, but this moment (RIGHT NOW) is alive and living. So forget about the past, yet learn from your mistakes, allow the future to be, and enjoy your time RIGHT NOW! 🙂