“Until you can look forward to all aspects of life without fear, your Work is not done.” – Byron Katie
I had an epiphany the other day after reading this quote. It slowly started to dawn on me that I had the willingness (in one area of my life) to look fear in the eye and choose not to be scared. The fear that used to TERRIFY me, no longer held its power over me and scared me the way it used to.
HOLY COW! WHAT a realization!
And the fear I am talking about? It is the FEAR of being FAT. You know it right?
I have been scared of being fat since the seventh grade. I had beliefs like: only skinny girls are pretty and only pretty girls are skinny. AND: I HAVE to be skinny in order for people to like me. AND: I am not likable if I am not skinny. You see where I am going with this…
The behaviors that came from believing such thoughts were detrimental to my health, mind, soul, and body. Behaviors such as: controlling my eating habits, eating when I wasn’t hungry, emotional binge-eating, harsh self-criticism, judging myself and others, and wearing baggy clothes because I was too scared to wear my tight clothes, for fear they wouldn’t fit.
And what did this all stem from? Believing thoughts that simply were NOT TRUE. Who said that only pretty people are skinny and visa versa? Or that one is only likable if they are skinny!? Because I have two words for them: what BULLSHIT!!!! 100% BullSHIT.
The fact that I can hear the voice in my head (you should watch what you eat, you don’t want to get FAT), feel it’s impact on my body, as uncomfortable body sensations (tightness, tenseness, and heaviness-usually in my heart center), and choose to face the fear, rather then fight it or ignore it, changes its effect on me. I used to be SO scared to face the fear, for fear that I would become FAT, that I would bow down to it (unknowingly), BELIEVE IT, and then end up feeling like the victim of my own life. This created a hellish life for me for quite some time.
BUT NOW?! I see it for was it is: a made up FEAR that doesn’t hold any truth whatsoever. May I repeat: A MADE OF UP FEAR THAT DOESN’T HOLD ANY TRUTH WHATSOEVER. Through life coach training and many of my own personal experiences, I have come to realize the insanity of the fear and have begun to trust myself and my body, more than a belief inside of my head.
And now that I have come to realize this, I can apply it to other fear based areas in my life, and not become paralyzed by limiting (fear based) beliefs for days, weeks, or months on end.
You are NOT the voice inside your head who makes you feel crappy about your life, body, work, relationships, etc. You are the one who is silenced by the fear, the one who stands back and watches the chaos unfold.
“If you truly knew how beautiful you are, you would fall at your own feet.” – Byron Katie
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