What if Your Problem isn’t Actually a Problem?


Have you ever listened to a friend or family member’s story of their frustration, anger, or sadness and think to yourself,

” You are making this so much harder on yourself then actually needs to be”.

Well I think we can all admit to this, in one way, shape, or form.  However, in the midst of a challenging situation, it’s hard to see how much energy and time we are actually devoting to the problem.  We become so attached to the problem, it’s as if the problem becomes who we are.  Often times, we don’t realize that our reaction to the problem causes us more suffering then the actual ‘problem’ itself.

Now, it is easier to look at another person’s situation from an outsiders perspective, and give our two cents, than to listen to our own advice, when we are amid a frustrating situation.

From my experience, I have realized that there are two avenues to choose from when experiencing a challenging situation, the negative path or the positive path.  It seems much easier to take a victim’s stance.  Asking questions like, “Why is this happening to me?” “What did I do to deserve this?”, or making statements such as, “I am angry at the world”, “life sucks”, etc, when in fact, taking that route makes you feel WAY worse than you initially did before you reacted to the situation.

Rather then looking at a crummy situation in a negative light, why not look at it in a positive light?  What if the frustrating situation is actually happening for a reason beyond your knowledge, and in the end, leads you to a better life and/or situation?

I find that when I focus solely on the positive aspects of a challenging situation, rather than the negative ones (I know it seems easier to bitch about your life, than not to, but it hurts you more in the end), I am happier and I don’t feel so depressed about my life.  I am not saying that it is easy to attempt this and succeed at your first, second, or even 100th try, but COMMITTING to this life-style change will help you become happier and life will surprisingly become easier and more meaningful.

Now the amount of effort is exactly the same, whether you choose to focus your attention positively or negatively.  However, your reaction to the situation is not the same.  And is it worth it to make a challenging situation even more challenging?  I know it is easier said then done, but there is no harm in trying to make small shifts in your attitude, thoughts, etc. to help you see that your ‘problem’ isn’t as bad as your mind makes it out to be.

I believe, that if we can find something negative in every situation, then we can also find something positive.  It is what we choose to focus our attention on that will decipher the amount of peace we feel in our hearts.

And when you need a little more encouragement, remember this:  PROBLEMS ARE MESSAGES.  Here is a passage from one of my favorite books, Living in the Light by Shakti Gawain.

When there are problems in your life, the universe may be trying to get your attention.  Its saying, “Hey, there’s something you need to be aware of, something that needs to be changed over here!”  If you pay attention to the small signals, you will learn from them.  However, if you don’t, the problems will intensify until you get the message and start to pay attention.  If you accept that every time a problem occurs the universe is showing you something, you will make rapid progress on your journey of self-discovery.

Good luck and don’t be so hard on yourself!  Life is happening for you, not to you.

Advice from Winnie the Pooh


This is one of my favorite sayings!

When we allow ourselves to focus on the present moment, putting our thoughts about the past and/or the future aside, we feel FREE!

Although it is not the easiest task to achieve, I can tell you from my past experiences, that it is the most rewarding feeling in the world.  Living in the moment enables you to clear all of your anxious and worrisome thoughts, placing you in the perfect moment, which is perfect in itself.

Let go and just BE! (Easier said then done, I know, but at least TRY!)

21-Day Meditation Challenge by Deepak Chopra

Deepak Chopra is offering one of his FREE 21-day Guided Mediation Challenges on November 5th!

This is SO exciting!

I participated in Deepak’s last 21-day meditation challenge three months ago. I can honestly say, from the bottom of my heart, that it was one of the best choices I have ever made!

Meditation allowed me to see my life through a clearer lens. It helped me become more aware of my thoughts and realize how each one of them effected me negatively or positively throughout the day. I began to sleep better and I felt more at peace with myself and others.

Although it has only been three months, much has changed in my life. I decided it was time to set new intentions and take control of my life in a more happy and positive direction.

After the challenge I began writing every morning. I dedicated 30 days to document my thoughts in pursuit of discovering my “Working Passion”. At the time I was working for a great company and enjoyed it. However, I knew deep down that it wasn’t a job which would fulfill me much longer.

About a week into my morning writings I stumbled upon an idea. I was in a coffee shop and while browsing through their greeting cards, one caught my eye. It had a very nice picture with a thoughtful message next to it. I thought to myself, “Hmm I can do that!”.

“I love to inspire others and I also enjoy graphic design. Why not combine the two and create something unique and special?” I thought.

And that is exactly what I did!

I left my job, unexpectedly, and began diving into the Greeting Card Business. And although I am not a HUGE company by any means, I took a chance! I took a leap of faith and now I am creating and selling cards which inspire me and hopefully inspire others as well!

This blog post is not about tooting my own horn, because it hasn’t been all sunshine! But, at the end of the day, believing in myself is what guided me to this point in my life; Never giving up and continually pursuing my heart’s desires.
Maybe you don’t know what your heart desires? Here is the chance to open another door and create a new path for yourself. I truly believe participating in this meditation challenge is one step closer to opening your eyes to your true potential!

Committing to the 21-day meditation challenge was the first step on the path I am now creating. It allowed me to become more aware of myself, the present moment, and my life’s purpose. If you already know your life’s passion, do it for your mind, body, and soul. It is life-changing for anyone and everyone who decides to take part in this challenge!

I would love to hear stories and people’s thoughts after the challenge is finished!



NOTE: By clicking on the “Links” above you will be directed to Deepak’s website and his Guided Meditation Challenge Page.

I Believe in Myself!

Life can sometimes be difficult. We have a hard time seeing how it will pan out in our favor, or we often think too much about the future or the past, allowing it to hold us back from our true potential in this moment.

I always ask others who seem to worry or think more than they actually live, “what does worrying do for you, rather than make the situation seem worse than it actually is?” or “Why are you spending so much of your time thinking about what could be when you have the opportunity to live perfectly in this moment, with no fears or worries?”

Now, although I lend advice to others, it is now MYSELF who is having trouble with living in the moment and letting the future be. Because I have first hand witnessed how this way of living has effected me (in the past couple days), being short with friends and family, having zero to no patience, and allowing my ego to blow everything out of proportion, I have made the decision to STOP. I have control and I am taking it back!

Of course life may not be “perfect” right now, but my attitude has only worsened my situation. What is the saying? “As one door closes another one opens.” Well that is my motto right now and I am closing the negative thinking and opening the door to positive thinking. 🙂


DROP THE MIND #Anam Thubten Rinpoche

This past weekend opened my heart to see even more of my true self. I attended a meditation retreat and was blessed to be in the presence of one of the greatest Buddhist teachers, Anam Thubten Rinpoche. I went to the retreat with the intention of furthering my meditation practice, not realizing that I would be in the presence of a magnificent human.

There were many enlightening teachings he shared with us throughout the retreat. I didn’t bring a writing tool or anything to write on (until the final day), but because his words were so empowering, there was no need to write any of them down. My heart opened up and took them inside, hopefully to never forget him or his words.

I want to share with everyone what I thought were the most powerful moments of the retreat.

It is not easy to convey his messages via writing, because there are no real words for what I experienced. However, I will try my best to explain the past couple of days in a few short, but wonderful words.


SURRENDER to any Concept or Belief you feel is making you suffer.

EXHAUST yourself with your concepts, beliefs, and thoughts so that the only way out is to DROP THE MIND.

Once you DROP THE MIND, you will be awakened to your true self and what will reveal itself is PURE Freedom, PURE Awareness, and PURE Emptiness (Emptiness: Once you rid yourself of all your made up beliefs about yourself and life all that will remain is Pure Emptiness).

So how do we achieve such things? The first step is to become more aware of our thoughts and our life. We must begin to train our minds to focus and live in the present moment. It begins with…

Mind Control.

Meditation is a very useful practice to help train our minds. Meditation allows us to become more aware of our thoughts, which then helps us to control our thoughts. Once we have learned to control our thoughts we can then begin to un-attach ourselves from the delusive beliefs and concepts we have created throughout our lives.

Daily meditation or even meditating 2-5 times a week will have a profound impact on the quality of your life.

Meditation Practice:
Sit with yourself in silence for five minutes. Focus your awareness on the breath, the inhale and exhale. When a thought arises, don’t label it as good or bad, simply observe it and then let it go, returning your awareness back to your breath. REPEAT.

Once we have learned the practice of meditation, dropping the mind will not seem so foreign. After meditating for only three weeks you will see a vast change and will be more aware of yourself and your life. If at times you feel overwhelmed by the busyness of your mind, simply ask yourself to “Drop the Mind”. It will become easier once you tame your mind to live in the present moment, because that is what mediation is. It is living for right now, for this very moment!

“Saying that you don’t have time to improve your thoughts and your life is like saying you don’t have time to stop for gas because you are too busy driving. Eventually it will catch up to you.” – The Monk who Sold his Ferrari.

If you would like to learn more about Anam’s retreats you can go his website and check out his schedule. He is one busy man, traveling every other week, however he travels all over the U.S. as well as internationally.