Be a Better Friend to Yourself

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GOT IT!?

How do you treat yourself? Mentally?

Are you aware of the mental chatter going on inside of your head? Do you notice how often the voice inside of your head makes you feel crappy about yourself and your life? Well let me SHOOT some TRUTH YOUR WAY: That voice, who makes you feel less than you really are, is NOT who you are, nor do you have to listen to or BELIEVE what is has to say.

Sure, it may feel true. And you could argue with me that those thoughts (which cause you to feel anxious or depressed) may in fact be true. But let me ask you something?
When you BELIEVE thoughts that make you feel crummy, what is the indicator that they are true? How can you REALLY know, 100%, that they’re TRUE?

Think about it…

Go inside and see what comes up for you.

I have a friend who believes that before she starts her business, she needs to have ALL her I’s dotted and T’s crossed. She had this story when I met her (8 months ago) and still lives by it today. And what has this belief given to her? A lot of UNNECESSARY stress and a lack of self-confidence and courage to get her BUSINESS out into the world.

Does she have her T’s crossed and I’s dotted?

YOU BET SHE DOES

And is she a wonderful and smart women who has a special gift to share with the world?  YOU BET SHE IS! Yet, she is still believing that she needs to DO MORE, in order for her to begin, and that my friends, is what’s HOLDING HER BACK.

I want you to hold a thought in your mind that makes you feel crappy. Such as: (I will use my own personal playlist, that my inner mean girl uses, when she likes to come out to play) you’re not doing enough, you will never be successful, you should watch what you eat (you don’t want to get fat!), you need to be doing more to be better, etc. Now find a thought that your inner mean girl uses when she comes out to play.

Got it? (DO THIS PEOPLE)

Now hold that belief in your mind FOR 30 seconds.

How do you feel?

Write down ALL of the feelings and PHYSICAL sensations in your BODY, that came up while believing this thought. Such as: tight, suffocating, clogged, heavy, etc.

(WRITE THEM DOWN, for reals!)

Okay, shake that shit off. Really, shake it off and get back to YOUR happy place.

NOW, hold a belief that you KNOW to be TRUE. For example (my truth): I love horses, I want to be happy, I love my partner, the sky is blue, etc.

NOW, hold that belief in your mind for 30 seconds.

How do you feel after believing that thought?

Better right?

Let me let you in on a TOP SECRET: IF A THOUGHT CAUSES YOU TO SUFFER (anxious, depressed, worried, unhappy) IT IS NOT TRUE.

Notice how you FELT when you held the absolute truth in your mind. Good right? A lot better then when you held the belief that your inner mean girl throws at you, huh?

When you BELIEVE the TRUTH it feels like freedom and when you believe a LIE, it feels like SHIT.

I know this may be a lot for your mind to comprehend, but it doesn’t need to comprehend it right now. Just notice how you feel when you believe the truth, the god to honest truth, like the sky is blue, and when you believe something that causes you to feel crappy about yourself.

It’s like hot and cold, right?

Wouldn’t you want to believe the TRUTH and FEEL FREE, then believe and LIE and feel like crap???

Easier said then done, I know. However, I am LIVING PROOF, that it is POSSIBLE. I have suffered from anxiety and depression, and ALL of it stemmed from the inner dialogue that was going on upstairs.

With a few coaching sessions under your belt, you will understand how you inner mean girl operates, how you can break free from the LIMITING beliefs that hold you back (like my friend), and create a happier life for yourself.

It all starts with you my dear.

And let me REMIND you of something: You are EFFING amazing and you have an incredible gift to share with the world. If I believe that, you can believe it. Don’t you EVER give up on yourself and when you’re in the DUMPS, reach out to a loved one and treat yourself the way you would treat your best friend. NO exceptions.

“Be a better friend to yourself.” – ME

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Looking FEAR into the EYES

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“Until you can look forward to all aspects of life without fear, your Work is not done.”  – Byron Katie

I had an epiphany the other day after reading this quote.  It slowly started to dawn on me that I had the willingness (in one area of my life) to look fear in the eye and choose not to be scared. The fear that used to TERRIFY me, no longer held its power over me and scared me the way it used to.

 

HOLY COW!  WHAT a realization!

 

And the fear I am talking about?  It is the FEAR of being FAT.  You know it right?  

I have been scared of being fat since the seventh grade.  I had beliefs like: only skinny girls are pretty and only pretty girls are skinny.  AND:  I HAVE to be skinny in order for people to like me.  AND: I am not likable if I am not skinny.  You see where I am going with this…

The behaviors that came from believing such thoughts were detrimental to my health, mind, soul, and body.  Behaviors such as: controlling my eating habits, eating when I wasn’t hungry, emotional binge-eating, harsh self-criticism, judging myself and others, and wearing baggy clothes because I was too scared to wear my tight clothes, for fear they wouldn’t fit.

 

And what did this all stem from?  Believing thoughts that simply were NOT TRUE.  Who said that only pretty people are skinny and visa versa?  Or that one is only likable if they are skinny!?  Because I have two words for them: what BULLSHIT!!!!  100% BullSHIT.

 

The fact that I can hear the voice in my head (you should watch what you eat, you don’t want to get FAT), feel it’s impact on my body, as uncomfortable body sensations (tightness, tenseness, and heaviness-usually in my heart center), and choose to face the fear, rather then fight it or ignore it, changes its effect on me.  I used to be SO scared to face the fear, for fear that I would become FAT, that I would bow down to it (unknowingly), BELIEVE IT, and then end up feeling like the victim of my own life.  This created a hellish life for me for quite some time.

 

BUT NOW?!  I see it for was it is:  a made up FEAR that doesn’t hold any truth whatsoever.  May I repeat:  A MADE OF UP FEAR THAT DOESN’T HOLD ANY TRUTH WHATSOEVER.  Through life coach training and many of my own personal experiences, I have come to realize the insanity of the fear and have begun to trust myself and my body, more than a belief inside of my head.

 

And now that I have come to realize this, I can apply it to other fear based areas in my life, and not become paralyzed by limiting (fear based) beliefs for days, weeks, or months on end.

 

HALLE-FUCKING-LUJAH!!!

 

You are NOT the voice inside your head who makes you feel crappy about your life, body, work, relationships, etc.  You are the one who is silenced by the fear, the one who stands back and watches the chaos unfold.  

 

“If you truly knew how beautiful you are, you would fall at your own feet.” – Byron Katie

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LOTS OF LOVE!!!!!

Sarah

What if Money was no Object? #INSPIRINGVIDEO

This video really resonates with me.  For the past four years or so I have dedicated much of my time exploring what it is that makes my heart smile.  I have worked for a few different companies and although I learned and experienced a great deal from each job, none of them ever felt quite right.

I wanted more passion in my life!  I wanted to feel fulfilled everyday I left work and excited everyday I went to work.

So I began writing, meditating, thinking, and believing that one day soon, I would find that something that made my heart jump for joy. That day came and I later realized, I had known my passion all along. This new endeavor only showed me another channel to express my passion through and make a living while doing so.

Now there are many skeptics out there saying that you can’t achieve your dreams because they aren’t realistic or there isn’t money to be made.  However, if you look within and follow your heart, it will never lead you astray.

If you feel like you can relate to my story, yet haven’t found your niche, then it is time to open the door towards self-realization.  Get to know yourself on a deeper level.  Spend some quality time with yourself, begin to meditate, write down your thoughts, and/or do something everyday that makes your heart smile.

Many people travel down the so called ‘guided’ path through life.  As if our lives should be in corespondence with a time line that says when we should go to college, when we should graduate, and what job we should take.  The the road less traveled is where your life truly begins.  You go in as one person and along the way evolve into the person you never thought possible.  The path less traveled is what awakens your heart and confronts your fears.  So don’t be afraid to go out on a limb, becuase that is where the fruit is. 🙂

My Beloved Child

My Beloved Child
My beloved child, break your heart no longer.
Each time you judge yourself, you break your own heart;
you stop feeding on the love which is the wellspring of your vitality.
The time has come. Your time to live, to celebrate.
And to see the goodness that you are.
You, my child, are Divine. You are pure. You are sublimely free.
You are God in disguise and you’re always perfectly safe.
Do not fight the dark, just turn on the light.
Let go and Breathe in to Goodness that you are.
~Swami Kripalu
 
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An Old Cherokee Teaches his Grandson about Life…

When I first laid eyes on this powerful saying I knew that it was a special message which should be shared! 🙂

Life is only ‘how good’ or ‘how bad’ you perceive it to be. You have the power to decide which “wolf” plays the larger roll in your life. Carefully choose your thoughts and direct your energy to the positive light within you.

“You are stronger then you choose to believe”.

It Doesn’t Interest me What you do For a Living……

When I lived in Los Angeles, I was asked regularly what it was that I did for a living.

This question intimidated me. I felt my entire demeanor change when asked this question. I felt like I had something to prove to these people, or maybe it was to myself.
I was young, working in the fashion industry, and still not sure what I was passionate for.

I felt that when I would answer this question, it didn’t reflect who I truly was as a person, but only shadowed who I was. It made me feel uncomfortable.

Our society tends to lean towards being superficial and materialistic. The things you have seem to mirror the type of person you are, rather than the person you are on the inside.

The more money, the more well respected one is. The more power, the more one is looked up to.

Now I am not knocking those who have money, or who have power in their job!
I have many friends whom I look up to who are wealthy or own their own successful businesses.

All I am saying, is that we should start looking through our hearts more, and let go of all our judgments and egotistical opinions that our minds so often create.

We may all have different talents, careers, friends, finical situations etc, but bottom line, is that we are all human beings, wishing for the same thing: HAPPINESS.

The quote below is a great reminder for all of us.
When meeting someone new, open your heart and look beyond that persons status and open your eyes to who they are as person.
Ask questions that will reveal who they are on the inside, not just on the outside.